What to Do When Mom Can’t Go Home After a Hospital Stay
When an aging parent is hospitalized, it can be a turning point for the entire family. If a physician determines that your loved one is no longer safe to return home, you may find yourself scrambling to find the right senior living option—often within just 48 hours. It’s an overwhelming and emotional process, and many families don’t know where to start.
At LivWell Seniors, we understand the urgency of these situations. Our free, local service connects families with senior living communities that match their loved one’s care needs, budget, and personal preferences. We provide guidance every step of the way, ensuring that families can make informed decisions, even under tight time constraints.
Acting Quickly in a Crisis
When a hospitalization forces a sudden transition, families must act fast. Without a clear plan in place, the situation can become even more stressful. That’s where LivWell Seniors steps in—we help families identify appropriate senior living options, navigate financial considerations, and coordinate the moving process.
Recently, we worked with a family in this exact situation. Their mother was hospitalized, and doctors determined that she could no longer live alone. The adult children were juggling caregiving responsibilities while also managing their own careers and families. To make matters more complex, one child held financial power of attorney, while the other handled medical decisions.
Time was of the essence. We helped them break down the key factors involved in choosing the right senior living option:
- Level of Care Needed – Whether their mom needed minimal assistance with daily activities or full-time skilled nursing care.
- Budget & Financial Resources – Identifying available funds to cover care costs.
- Personal Preferences – Ensuring that their mom felt comfortable and involved in the decision-making process.
Understanding Budget & Financial Considerations
One of the biggest concerns for families is how to pay for senior living. Many don’t know what financial resources their loved one has available, or how to maximize them. We guided this family through the process of assessing their mother’s financial situation, helping them answer key questions:
- What is her monthly income? (Social Security, pensions, IRA withdrawals, investment dividends, etc.)
- What assets can be liquidated to cover long-term care? (Stocks, bonds, CDs, home equity, etc.)
- Does she qualify for veterans benefits as a veteran or surviving spouse?
By clarifying these financial details, we provided a clear picture of what level of care was financially feasible and how long their mother’s funds would last under different scenarios.
Finding the Right Senior Living Community
Once the financial picture was clear, we moved on to identifying the best senior living options. Because we work locally, we have up-to-date knowledge of community openings, pricing, and amenities in the Quad Cities, Cedar Rapids, Iowa City, and Des Moines areas.
We scheduled tours of communities that met the family’s criteria. Fortunately, their mother was well enough to visit the communities herself, allowing her to take an active role in the decision-making process. She was able to tour apartments, envision where she would place her furniture, and choose the space that felt most like home.
This involvement was crucial. When seniors feel ownership over the decision, they are more likely to embrace the transition, leading to a smoother adjustment and higher quality of life.
Handling the Transition & Move
Once a senior living community was chosen, the next step was handling the logistics of the move. Many families are unprepared for the details that follow, including:
- Scheduling an assessment by the new community to ensure proper care plans are in place.
- Organizing packing, downsizing, and moving.
- Selling a home if necessary to fund long-term care.
Because this family needed to move quickly, we connected them with professional downsizing and moving services. These specialists packed their mother’s belongings, transported them, and set up her new space to feel like home. Additionally, we introduced them to a trusted real estate agent to handle the sale of her home, ensuring a seamless transition.
The Outcome: A Smooth Transition & Peace of Mind
From hospitalization to move-in, this entire process was completed in less than a week. Despite the urgency, the family felt confident in their decisions, knowing that they had found the right care solution.
Perhaps most importantly, their mother felt empowered throughout the process. By taking an active role in choosing her new home, she was able to maintain a sense of control and dignity, making the transition much easier.
The family later shared how grateful they were for our assistance. They couldn’t imagine navigating this process alone, and they appreciated having a knowledgeable, compassionate guide. As a heartfelt thank-you, they even sent us an apple pie—a small but meaningful gesture that reinforced why we do what we do.
Planning Ahead Can Make All the Difference
While crisis situations often force families to make quick decisions, planning ahead can make the transition much smoother. If you have an aging parent, now is the time to start discussing:
- Their care preferences – Would they prefer to age at home with support, or are they open to senior living options?
- Their financial situation – What resources are available to cover care costs?
- Potential senior living communities – Touring options before a crisis can reduce stress when a move becomes necessary.
By having these conversations early, you can avoid making rushed decisions under pressure.
LivWell Seniors: Here When You Need Us
Whether you’re in the midst of a crisis or simply planning ahead, LivWell Seniors is here to help. We provide free, local guidance to families navigating the senior living process in the Quad Cities, Cedar Rapids, Iowa City, and Des Moines. Our team understands the challenges families face, and we’re committed to making the transition as smooth as possible.
If you need help finding the right senior living community for your loved one, call us at 563-265-1577 or visit LivWellSeniors.com. We’re available nights and weekends because we know that senior care decisions don’t always happen during business hours.
Let us take the stress out of this process—so you can focus on what matters most: your loved one’s well-being and peace of mind.